Proper introductions are the foundation of social grace, connecting people in a way that puts everyone at ease and facilitates conversation.
The Basic Principle
Generally, introduce the "lesser" to the "greater": younger to older, employee to executive, friend to dignitary. You are honoring the senior person by speaking their name first.
The Formula
"[Senior Person], I'd like to introduce [Junior Person]." Then provide context: "[Senior], [Junior] is a colleague who specializes in..." This gives them something to discuss.
Examples
- "Mother, this is my colleague James Wilson. James, my mother, Mrs. Anderson."
- "Senator Clarke, may I present Dr. Sarah Mitchell? Dr. Mitchell leads our research department."
- "Everyone, this is our new neighbor, Maria Santos."
When Introduced
Stand if seated (unless physically unable), make eye contact, smile, and shake hands firmly but briefly. Respond with "How do you do" or "It's a pleasure to meet you." Repeat the person's name to help remember it.
Self-Introductions
When no one is available to introduce you, approach confidently: "Hello, I'm [Name]. I don't believe we've met." Offer context if helpful: "I'm a friend of the host" or "I work with Sarah."
Forgotten Names
If you've forgotten someone's name, be honest: "I'm so sorry, please remind me of your name." When introducing someone whose name you've forgotten, say "Have you two met?" and let them introduce themselves.